Good evening lovers. The evening is winding down and hopefully you are cuddling with your beauty or beast and reading this together. Tonight’s topic is about being lost in love. When we get into a relationship with someone, we are enamored. We view them through rose colored lenses and they can do no wrong. The mere action of said lover tripping over something sets you on fire. You are in love! You find yourself daydreaming about them all day, asking yourself: “I wonder if they’re thinking about me?” “I can’t wait to see them!” You catch yourself checking your phone every other minute just to see if you have a missed call. Only to see a heartwarming text, “Babe I Just wanted you to know that I was thinking about you!” Is there a better feeling?
As time passes, you begin to navigate how you fit into one another’s lives. Work, school, relationship, passions, professional affiliations, friends and personal time becomes a balancing act. You have to figure out how to maintain your life and grow in your relationship simultaneously. But the energy from your love continues to draw you closer to them. You begin to come up with excuses to put off your priorities to spend time with them. “I can do my homework tomorrow right?” “I hung out with the girls three weeks ago,” “gym? One day won’t hurt right?” Yes, your relationship is worth it, but your anonymity is important as well.
Maintaining the “self” in your relationship is important to maintain the “us” in your union. You have to give yourself time to miss the person and even more important, you will have something to talk about when you reconvene. When you spend all of your time with your lover, someone will feel as though the other is being clingy and you begin to push that person away. Make sure that you are pushing the other person to grow personally as well as professionally. They can’t do that when they are laid up under you all the time. Having your time away will stoke the flame in your love. Longing for someone will make love making even more fulfilling!
Kiss your love goodnight, if they aren’t near you, send one of those cute emoji’s! I love you if you haven’t heard that today.
The Krimson Thought